We’re often asked about overcoming fear and that makes total sense when you consider that fear is the most common obstacle to be conquered when pursuing a passion, dream, or goal. Empowered women know that when we succumb to our fears that we give our power away. That makes facing our fears and overcoming them an important skill to learn.
This classic Mad TV-Bob Newhart video offers some tongue in cheek advice for overcoming your fears and personal shortcomings. Bob’s advice; Stop It!
Good for a laugh and admittedly simplistic, there are still some nuggets of wisdom amongst the humor. Bear with us as we break them down for you…
1. Fear is based in our imagination: While our fears can feel very real to us, often times we’ve never actually experienced what we’re most afraid of. Only eight percent of our fears are actually realized, making ninety-two percent of the energy spent on our fears wasted. We can be disappointed, regretful and unhappy of the things that have happened in our past. At this very moment we’re currently experiencing the present, which hopefully isn’t too scary. That brings us to the future, where our fears reside. It’s what we imagine might happen that makes us most afraid. Our fear hasn’t actually happened; making it essentially non-existent! That realization alone can lighten our fears and lead to an important shift in power.
2. Are we making things too complicated: Most of us believe that overcoming our fears means following a complicated self-help regimen or difficult course of therapy. What if we challenged that belief and instead adopted a simple and straight-forward approach to managing our fears? Is it possible that five minutes of personal straight-talk, and a conscious decision and desire to “feel” our fear but live our best life anyway, is all that’s really necessary? There’s only one way to find out and that’s to give it a try!
3. Don’t go there: Playing the “blame game” doesn’t serve us, and certainly doesn’t lead to overcoming our fears. Reclaim your power and instead make a choice. The decision is yours; will you live a fear-based life or a fear-less one?
4. We all have fears: Life in general is the great equalizer, and nobody comes out of it unscathed as they say. Regardless of our sex, race, creed or hair color, we all have fears, issues and problems to overcome.
5. Nobody likes change: When you boil it all down, what we really fear is change. Whether good or bad, we would rather stick with our current reality than risk the unknown. View change as an adventure and live the life you want, not the life you fear.
So there we have it, and just like Bob, in less than five minutes. Only have a twenty? Never fear, that was at no charge!
Sister of Soul
Soulspiration of the Week:
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do”. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt